Knowledge is the great equalizer. A little knowledge is a great way to keep the fear of a new situation at bay. Even though literally every single human being on the planet came about through the process of pregnancy and childbirth, the experience remains a great unknown to those that have never gone through it before.
That's why Anita and I decided to take a trip to the local Half Price Books in search of some reading material to help us get a grip on this adventure we are taking part in.
Half Price Books is a great bookstore. If it weren't for the fact that its selection is unpredictable, it would be my favorite book store. One thing we can always count on there is a good deal on a book in decent or sometimes even near-mint condition.
When we arrived, Anita went directly to the pregnancy section of the store. I'm not sure if it's really called that, but that is where all the books on pregnancy and child rearing are kept. I, on the other hand, went on a hunt for a Pathfinder, DragonLance, or Eclipse Phase book that I didn't already have in my collection.
I, unfortunately, came back empty handed as their selection at the Southpark Meadows location isn't very well stocked on epic fantasy and RPG books. What they did have is multiple rows dedicated to cheesy paperback romance novels. If you're ever looking for a book with a shirtless man cradling a woman on the cover, this is your store!
Back to Anita, she found two pretty cool looking books.
The first book is one of those titles that just about everyone has heard about. Whether or not they've read it is another story, but it looked like a good place to start learning more about the experience of pregnancy and childbirth.
The second book, on the other hand, just looked like a lot of fun to read. What size fruit will your baby be on a given week? Can you eat sushi? These are important questions and ones that the Internet has answers for... usually in total opposition of one-another. Granted, an author can write anything they want in their book but at the end of the day they're selling it which means they have some understanding of liability and at least one editor other than the author has read it.
Pregnancy is the most natural part of being a human. Women are fortunate enough to have the privilege of experiencing this part of life. I believe we, as men, owe it to ourselves and our partners to read up on it and learn as much as we can to better understand what they're going through.
Or, we could always just stay in the fantasy aisle.